There are a lot of things I’m pretty fed up with lately, I’m sure I could run a huge list and many of you would probably agree. However, the worst of the lot is the self-entitlement I have recently come across from men who appear to think it’s O.K to grope a woman in a public space.
This happened to me numerous times in two different venues, just this weekend alone. Before you question what I was wearing I suggest you take a minute to think about that and then keep your mouth firmly shut. What a woman wears doesn’t act as an open invitation for anyone to think they have the right to touch someone else. (I actually can’t believe I had to write this here, but y’know there are some people, who just won’t get it.)
Yes, I was drinking which is normally what a majority of the population do when they go out to a bar on a weekend. Yes, they were alcoholic beverages because I do like to have a drink. Not that it should make a difference anyway.
Too many men get away with a brush of a boob, a slap on the ass, or even a hefty handed grope. This is not attractive, it’s not flattering it’s downright disrespectful, patronizing and shameful behavior. I’m trying to work out what goes through these clowns heads to think this is even remotely acceptable. As a society we still have not progressed any further from this caveman attitude of “A woman belongs to a man, so therefore I can grab you and suddenly you will become mine.” We cannot blame this on booze either, the men that do believe this is acceptable behavior already have this ridiculous preconception set well within their ideals and unfortunately these are the very same men we will never be able to change.
For me however, I’ve had enough. I should not have to stand and lie that I’m in a relationship to have a man leave me alone, to fend off unwanted attention. I should not have to walk away and just laugh it off because you think it’s all a bit of fun and a joke. I will and I did humiliate these men and do it loud enough for anyone and everyone within the nearby vicinity where the assault, yes it is assault – you touch me without my consent can hear what is happening. I will call your sleazy, good for nothing ass out on it, and make an example of you.
Perhaps we should use the #Spellcheckaracist hashtag as an example and implement our own instead along the lines of #Calloutaperve