So you’ve been seeing someone for a while now and you are in the state of mind of trying to work out exactly where you stand.
Is it a casual fling with the occasional public appearance or is it going to turn into that fairytale you always wanted it to be when you were little and the Knight comes riding in on his white stallion to rescue you and take you away to his castle and live happily ever after?
How do you even begin to start the conversation?
Soooo where do you see “this” going?
Isn’t really a conversation started as it will sometimes make the whole situation seem rather uncomfortable and for all you know you could get not much further than a “I’m not ready for a serious relationship” or a “Maybe we should just stay friends with the occasional benefit”
In reality it was easier when we were younger to have that fling with no meaning or to have a casual thing going on as you weren’t really in the frame of mind to think “Jesus, my body clock is ticking and I may want to get married and have children.”
This is something that makes it even more difficult when you’re approaching your 30th year and all men you meet must think that you want to nail them down spawn their children and commitment them to a lifetime of marriage .
I’m at the stage where the talk really is going to have to occur rather quickly, but the only time I seem to have the balls to discuss it is when I’ve had a wine or ten and then at that point the boy just finds it rather amusing and we avoid the subject and continue with our much desired extra-curricular activities like we have been doing so for the past two months.
Do we honestly want a title?
Does the talk mean you can then go and have conversations with other people and say “Well My Boyfriend…” instead of Man-friend, Plaything, FB or “The guy I’m seeing…” so its all official and you feel important and therefore more down with the kids that currently surround you who are popping out babies getting married or have been in relationships since Adam and Eve ate that destructive apple.
What classifications do we have to fall into to define our relationship with “that” person who currently inhibits our lives and gives us butterflies when they call, or when you see them or even if they just gently squeeze your hand out in public to give you a bit of reassurance that they are with you?
The attempt to have this conversation for me will continue this weekend….. Fingers crossed x